Believing Lies That Put Us In Bondage
Our hearts are not meant to be bet on silly games or silly boys, they are Gods precious possessions; they are treasures that should be guarded amongst a sacred wall. Love is not a game; it is a gift from God and should be treated as so.
Women, we are the only ones to blame for allowing ourselves to feel unwanted, we are believing a lie and putting ourselves in bondage. When we so eagerly bet our hearts on a low buy-in game we are relentlessly setting ourselves up for failure and feelings of unavoidable unworthiness. Luckily for us, Jesus died for our sins – His blood covers that blame and that shame. We are a new creation and by the grace of God, we can continue our sacred walk and matrimony with our true lover and Lord, Jesus Christ – knowing that He wants us and that’s all that matters.
When we bet our hearts on a man who isn’t willing to pursue us with 100 percent of his heart, mind, and soul; a man who doesn’t go out of his way to seek counsel, get permission, and take responsibility – we are just as surely and just as clearly flirting with death. When we choose God, we win. God is the ONLY One that will never leave us or forsake us. Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” I have to repent for dimming my own fire; for selfishly pointing blame at the boy on the other side of the table; how naïve of me to put hope in anything or anyone other than the only one that matters; to expect a boy to take on a man’s responsibility.
If women are fruit on a tree, with the most righteous, God-fearing, most obedient women at the top, and the most desperate or willing to settle at the bottom, I have to repent again, for not listening to God’s word, being patient, or trusting in Him. Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Whatever man dares to pursue us needs not only be willing to climb as high as he can, but also willing to continuously fall and get back up again; eager and dedicated to climbing to the top of the tree to get that delicious fruit, that God has provided for him; only if he is up for the challenge and the responsibility of the journey. It’s about determination, perseverance, and being a man so fearful of God, that he knows he needs to be serious and committed once he decides to pursue one of Jesus’ brides. For us women willing to settle for men, boys for that matter, that are so incredibly lazy, they can’t even reach the lowest hanging fruit on the tree; i.e. those of us women that are doing the pursuing, rather than trusting the Lord and waiting to be pursued by the man God has ordained for us. WAKE UP! The fact in which that lazy, blind, selfish dude hasn’t picked us, is a blessing! It’s a wake up call to realize where we really belong on that tree – at the top. Where the man we are to marry is willing and passionate about doing whatever it takes to get his bride, Lord willing. The more obedient we are, the more we seek Jesus, the more we love Christ, and the closer we become with the Holy Spirit, the more we should realize His perfect plan for us. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” …and trust me, it’s not the moron that leaves your heart on the table; beautiful fruit, unpicked; and a wonderful, God-fearing woman single. They should be chasing us because we’re on fire for the Lord.
My prayer for all of us is that we realize the priorities in our lives and, that we readjust what needs tweaking so that we become closer with our best friend, the Holy Spirit; knowing that He is our refuge and our only source of Hope. Psalm 62:5 says, “Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him.” Luke 12:7 says, “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” and again in Matthew 10:30 “even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.” The truth is ladies, no man will EVER love us this much, EVER! We are so lucky to be loved by our King. Let us rejoice and sing praises to Him and may everything we do, think, and say glorify or Master and our Maker. Amen ❤
Proverbs – Women as Wives (by Mark Driscoll):
1 Peter 3:7 – Marriage and Men (by Mark Driscoll):
Real Men – The Wedding (by James Harleman):